Thursday, June 9, 2011

“It is not true that suffering ennobles the character; happiness does that sometimes, but suffering, for the most part, makes men petty and vindictive."

Pettiness.  Take away your pride, strip yourself of your ego, see your life and those in it for what they are.  The most important aspects of your world and life.  What things get in the way of your relationships?  They offended you perhaps, said something to humiliate you, they hurt your feelings by not reacting in a manner you hoped, hell even if they did what you assumed to be unforgivable.... How big of a deal was it really?  Really?

You may have justified it in many ways, your were right, they need to learn a lesson, you warned them you would abandon them if they didn't comply, all in all you trick yourself into believing you had every right.  You didn't.  You never did.  Why?  Because we all do it to each other, not on purpose usually but, you are NOT exempt.  So what do I suggest?  Drop it. Forgive. Get over it.  Stop your self loathing, self-pitying, the exploiting of their mistakes to make you look better and them look worse.  Get over yourself and love.  It is making your life worse and only you can save yourself from yourself.  My suggestion do it. 

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

People Need Love Most When They Are The Hardest To Love

Because of you, I have you....

Lovely thought.  You yourself are a gift to all those you meet, constantly offering up new ideas, changing perspectives and refreshing spontaneity.  Because we all see so differently in our own lives based on our experiences, backgrounds, religion, people we encounter... and then forms you.  Your lessons teach you, mold you, refine you.  Ruin is a beautiful gift we are allowed. Ruin is the road to transformation.  

Being born, brought to life we begin to become that special person, we grow, learn, love and we don't do it perfectly, we aren't supposed to. At least that is my belief.  The trick is to find order in chaos, love in those you hate, to forgive the unthinkable, to go through hell and still see all the beauty around you.  Give humans credit, all of em.  I believe at any given time people are doing the best they know how.  Maybe to some it isn't enough because they know a better way to handle life, when you find that in your mind, follow it up with the ever constant reminder; If you know something that could ease someones pain, pass it on to them.  Don't judge. Love instead, join those that struggle and help them to see what you see, help them be okay. People get so used to things the way they are, even if they are bad.  People have a hard time with change.  People kind of give up and when they do everyone loses.  People are scared of something good.  It's hard, you have to keep an eye on them because people don't always know what they need.  A person can fix a person.

See life for what it is, humans for what they are.  Simply Love. Love, cherish, appreciate, give, and love yourself enough to receive it!  Stop asking what people can do for you, they have done plenty if they have already given you the gift of their presence.  Stop thinking you need to do anything but be yourself.   The only thing you can do to cheapen your existence would be to deny the world of you by being someone your aren't.  

Avoid the temptation to place a persons worth  on vanity.  How much money they have, how good do they look, how appealing are they to the worlds eye, how much fun will they give me, how will they entertain me.  We pressure ourselves to fulfill these requirements and base our self worth on it.  Silly really, it's like diamonds wishing to sparkle and be awed at not realizing they already are sparkling, beautiful, breathe taking diamonds, simply by being.  Just as you are. By this realization, you are free