The "Win-Win" Lifestyle

Something interesting to me is the perception many people have as well as society is that in order for one to thrive one must go without.  If someone is to be rich, or wealthy, then another must be needy and poor.  The thought that in order to win there must be losers.  It is quite odd actually, at least I think so.  Why have we decided that we can't all have peace, harmony, love, abundance, wealth? It is possible. Just because it isn't so doesn't mean it can't be.

I find it happening all around me, constantly. I laugh at it now, even though it isn't a laughing matter.  I have learned to take myself out of the race to rankings.  How? If I run a marathon, then great I did it! That is all that I care about, where I took place doesn't matter because I reached my goal.  No one had to not run the marathon in order for me to win it, that is silly.  For whatever reason, we've decided as a culture that it isn't enough to simply do, to take risks, to push ourselves.  It's true.  We've decided that we must win and someone lose in order to truly "win".  This is one of the larger lies we've bought into.

In my land, if a million people set out to run a marathon and we all did it, we all just "won".  We all achieved what we had set out to do.  That is enough, that is more than enough.  Deciding who did it the best, the fastest  or the prettiest is just petty.  It does matter that people put in the effort but why does it matter who finishes first?  Another example, a big one, in order for one girl to be pretty other girls must be ugly... Ya, I went there :) Really though, can't the world house beautiful women? Ya, it can.  Do we need to put one girl down to lift another-nope! Appreciate both as they are, as God designed them (he knows what he's doing).

I find the comparisons silly, petty and a belief system that needs to be done away with.  We aren't running out of money, of beauty or anything else to need to selectively give it to a handful of individuals.  This world is an abundant place, their is plenty to go around for everyone. Always has been always will be, but acting as though some may starve so others can eat is just ridiculous and jaded.  Doesn't matter what the masses think, this is truth, it's just how it is!

“There's great value in taking months or years or the rest of your lifetime to develop yourself. Discover your goals and talents. Educate yourself. Improve your body, mind and spirit for God so you can more effectively help and bless others, or do it so you will be more attractive to the opposite sex.”

Life is a Virtual Reality

I am very aware of the bigger picture.  Their is a lot more to this life, the world, society and the universe than we can even comprehend. 

I'll say it like this.  Imagine you are playing a video game, in the video game is a little avatar you.  You sit down and play the game.  You begin playing it so much that one day while playing, you take your avatar to work and your boss yells at you.  He tells you you are worthless, lazy and a terrible person.  The avatar cries but you cry as well.  It is only a game but you have become so connected to it that you now mistake it for your reality. . 

This is what happens when we only look at one aspect of ourself.  We have a mind, a body, a spirit, a soul.  If we purely look at one aspect and fail to see ourselves as a whole, We are blinded by what is actually going on because we are not capable of seeing the big picture.

Big Picture.  We are intelligent, beautiful, talented people.  Every one of us has a reason for existence, we bring a different flavor to the table.  Just being you is incredible.  You are the only one.  By doing absolutely nothing on your part you were born a unique individual with gifts that only you can offer to the world.  You have your own perspectives to give and these differences are what make the world an amazing place.  No need to conform, simply to allow yourself to be just as you are.

Re-Cap of 2011

I feel so grateful to be alive. This has been such an incredible year. I have had my ups and downs.  2011 seemed to only know the extremes when it came to me and life.  I was either fabulous or terrible no in betweens.  The year started off with some tragic losses. I lost loved ones, I felt very depressed and not myself well it got even worse. The first 5 months were rough.  No complaints, it just is what it is and it sucked. No harm in being honest, right?

Then because of the bad times I decided something had to change, well practically that everything had to change.  So, I did it! I actually managed to pick up the pieces of my life and to put me back together.  Once I did that (which wasn't easy, trust me!), I realized wait I gotta know what direction I want the newly gathered me to go in. I had no idea exactly where I wanted to end up because quite frankly I wasn't in a good enough place to know where to go.  All I did know, is that I would know when I got there because it would be so different of a place that I couldn't think it up a few months ago. 

Well, it was the tough that got me going.  After working to change every aspect of my life, the coolest things started happening.  Miracles.  Everything felt like a miracle, like it was my first time experiencing life and it couldn't feel sweeter.  I love more than I was ever capable, I trust, I forgive, I go with the flow of life! If someone would have told me at the beginning of 2011 I would be where I am now I wouldn't have believed them.  It was the impossible, my everest. I can't help but smile as I write this because, I can't believe I did it.  2011 was a year for transitioning, it wasn't comfortable but wow, was it worth it!

It wasn't all done by me, I had plenty of Heavenly Help.  It would have been impossible without our Heavenly Parents! I am eternally grateful for them and I love them dearly.

Never thought I'd say this because it was Hell but, there is no doubt it's been the most meaningful year of my life.  By far the most difficult and the most rewarding! Here's 2011... Cheers!

The Wisdom Of Your Cells

I find it difficult to put my finger on any one thing that has been going on in my life right now.  Everything around me is changing so quickly.  It is all a positive movement. Something I look forward to day in and day out.  I am finding that change is the constant that I love, that I need and rely upon.  It is also a skill required to live in such a fast pace world.  We as a human race are constantly evolving, growing, adapting and we keep up with it on most levels.

Recently I listened to lectures given by Dr. Bruce Lipton. He is a brilliant cellular biologist, he has come upon research that changes the world.  The entire perception we use as a society to found our medical system is incorrect.  Not only is it incorrect it is so far off that it is actually doing the opposite of what it is intended to do.  The number one leading cause of deaths in our country is our Medical system! There is proof, there has been proof for years, and it has been published by our medical society in our medical journals.  So why do we still keep to those teachings? We know it isn't working, it hasn't been working for years and yet we hold to the principles.  Blind leading the even more blind.  It is our job to become educated, to question everything, and to push limitations.

Our Medical system has never ":cured" anything.  Never! We trick ourselves by taking drugs to not feel pain, but the pain still exists, we just blocked receptors in the brain to not send the pain message.  It exists.  We have made bandaids.  We don't get to the root of a problem, we cut into a person and take out there organs, we don't address infections, most antibiotics do more harm than they do good.  They work a few times, they weaken our immune system at the same time and take away our ability to fight off harmful bacteria.

If our country is willing to say in God we Trust.  Then we should trust God.  Trust that he gave us the proper equipment and tools to heal ourselves, to protect us from diseases.  He did, but I assure you they are not man made, they are made by him.  They are on this earth, they were created for our benefit and we continually ignore it.  Sciences mission statement is to take God out of the equation.  So we as a country trust God, but just not with everything? Wild. Makes no sense really?

It just makes me question what direction we are really heading in? I know it's not in a good one.

The roads of life are strewn with the wreckage of run-down and half-finished loves. -Ralph W. Sockman

As children we are taught to pick up our messes, we made the mess so it is our responsibility to pick it up.  As parents that is what we teach our children.  Their are consequences to our actions, all our actions. 

If their is a spill, say an oil spill, the company responsible must pay the damages and take all necessary action to undo what they are responsible for, even it was an accident.  The world holds all responsible, our judicial system holds companies, persons, responsible and their are heavy consequences for those that try to evade responsibility.  Car accidents, we are liable for having insurance, taking care of anothers car.  It is expected, taught and we all abide by this standard, either willingly or unwillingly.

So why then do we take no responsibility for the emotional wreckage we bestow?  We blame the ones we loved and left for loving us too much, for not knowing we were going to leave, for not reading our minds and then for trying to make us feel bad about it as if it were not our responsibility at all.  We cause emotions spills, and walk away as though we aren't responsible at all for hurt feelings, broken hearts, lost hope, shattered self-esteems and justify our actions so we aren't left feeling guilt.  Loved ones around us even feed into our woes, helping us to be okay with leaving another persons life shattered.

t may cost thousands in therapy.  What is self worth, worth?  How long does it take to build back confidence?  Unless their is a special pill I am unaware of that takes care of all emotional messes left by us... I believe we are responsible for cleaning up our emotional massacres as well.  At helping put people back together, even if it means hard work, humbling ourselves and showing we do care we left another human in pain.  It isn't easy to stay and watch the wreckage left by none other than you, even though it was most likely done on accident.  It still was your fault, so step up.  Show you care, maybe not in the way you once did, but don't you still have compassion for humanity?

We have all been on both sides of this situation if you have ever dated.  Walking away and leaving someone to fend for themselves and figure it out is you, being heartless.  That is the truth, deny it, fight it, manipulate it.  You know that if you got someone into a mess you most likely will be the on most effective at helping them get out of it. Or at least at helping them to piece life back together.  Take care of your emotional spills, the ones that were hurt, even if it was an accident.  You could be preventing years of pain, therapy, insecurities and restore some sort of decency to humanity.